I earn more than most doctors but am so low key that hypergamy doesn’t work which is fine but sometimes I’m into it, I’m a “mysterious source of income guy” in a fun city, which just means “has a high paying 9-5 job” but that goes over most people’s heads since I don't tell them what, and its not a tech hub where it would be both obvious and more unremarkable
Doctors that like to the play the field show up to events in their scrubs. It works. They get a lot of attention from potential mates, and I've seen some people I know completely switch character to something more seductive.
Sometimes I think I want that attention, but people remember what you do so I don't want that, I havent really struck a balance and enjoy who I do attract. It's great that they're interested in me, sometimes I hear them mention someone who is interesting because of their occupation or material wealth, and I think "I have those attributes and more, how is that not obvious". In San Francisco it would be obvious, but not here unless you do flashy things.
People that have voiced a guess have guessed I earn at 1/5th of what I do, despite the loft in a HCOL and additional place and lifestyle for my comfort, to me they are just divorced from value.
Whats more interesting is that people have pretty strong opinions about the fickle and malleable nature of attraction, but you can always play if you want
I earn more than most doctors but am so low key that hypergamy doesn’t work which is fine but sometimes I’m into it, I’m a “mysterious source of income guy” in a fun city, which just means “has a high paying 9-5 job” but that goes over most people’s heads since I don't tell them what, and its not a tech hub where it would be both obvious and more unremarkable
Doctors that like to the play the field show up to events in their scrubs. It works. They get a lot of attention from potential mates, and I've seen some people I know completely switch character to something more seductive.
Sometimes I think I want that attention, but people remember what you do so I don't want that, I havent really struck a balance and enjoy who I do attract. It's great that they're interested in me, sometimes I hear them mention someone who is interesting because of their occupation or material wealth, and I think "I have those attributes and more, how is that not obvious". In San Francisco it would be obvious, but not here unless you do flashy things.
People that have voiced a guess have guessed I earn at 1/5th of what I do, despite the loft in a HCOL and additional place and lifestyle for my comfort, to me they are just divorced from value.
Whats more interesting is that people have pretty strong opinions about the fickle and malleable nature of attraction, but you can always play if you want